Sunday, 16 February 2014

What I'm thankful for #1

Over the last couple of months I've been trying to train my brain to think positively. It's not something that is always easy to do, we all have demons lurking in us that like to remind us of things that we don't care to be reminded of, but I've persisted. My physical health and mental health have become more important to me over the last few months, I've had to take both things seriously.

Positive Thinking

Thinking positive has become very important to me, I have to do it. It would be so easy to slip into depression with what has happened to me, I saw my GP about my mental health and sleeplessness soon after my marriage ended. I was given sleeping tablets, which turned out to be a god send, but my doctor wouldn't prescribe my anti depressants. I hadn't gone in to see him to get them, I wasn't depressed and I didn't even mention them, but I had plenty of people tell me that I should have asked for them to help me through the weeks and months ahead. What the doctor said to me has stuck with me, my reactions and emotions following what happened were normal. Of course I was going to be upset, down, not sleeping and not eating. He knew that I would come through and appear on the other side of this as a strong person, but I was going to have to do it myself.

Positive thinking isn't always easy but I'm finding it increasingly easy to swap negative thoughts for positive ones as soon as they pop into my head. The positive thoughts can be anything, it can be the thought of going dancing with friends, the thought of my holiday to Dubai later this year or it can be as simple as knowing there's chocolate waiting for me at home.

The Future

Ah, the future. Both terrifying and exciting in equal measure. Four months ago I was utterly, utterly terrified of the future. But now? Now I'm looking forward to it, I have lots to look forward to: holidays, buying my own home, getting a dog, spending time with friends, being a many positive things are ahead of me.

When I can feel myself slipping down, I head to places like Pinterest or Rightmove. Pinterest lets me plan out the future I want, such how I want my house to look whereas Rightmove lets me window shop for the type of house I want and the area I want to live in. I'm not planning on selling my house until the end of the year, but it's good to know what's out there.

Positive People

They say that when a crisis hits you really find out who your friends are, this has been true for me. Some friends have been in touch maybe once in the last few months, some friends never ask how I am and have never talked about my marriage ending as if it's not happened, which is fine. However, other people have been truly amazing. Those are the people I have surrounded myself with, people who aren't afraid of the emotions I've shown but they're also people who have shown me that there's a great life out there to be had.

Being Thankful

I have a lot to be thankful for in my life. I have an amazing family, wonderful friends and a good job that I enjoy. When I'm feeling down I try to remind myself that the fundamentals of life are well taken care of. I initially bought a journal in order to record three things each day that I've been thankful for but I'm terrible at keeping a journal, instead I've decided that each Sunday I'll list what I've been thankful for that week.

Some weeks I may have ten things, whilst other weeks may have been tough but I'm determined to be able to list at least one thing I'm thankful for. Whether those things are basics such as having a roof over my head and being able to eat a hot dinner everyday, or whether they're other things like being able to buy a new pair of shoes, or Cardiff beating xyz team that week. I will have things to be thankful for.

This week I am thankful for:

The beautiful tulips I bought myself 
Being able to bake yummy things
Friends who like to do fun things
Supportive colleagues

Do you write down what you're thankful for? If you do something similar and you blog about it, leave me your links.



  1. Aw it's so lovely to read a post like this :) I think I need to start writing down what i'm thankful for too. x

    1. It's such a nice way to round off the week, especially if it's had some low points - it reminds you that not everything is bad in the world :) x

  2. This is such a good idea, it can be so easy to write off the week as 'a rubbish week' without thinking of the little positives. I'm glad you're finding it easier to push away the negative thoughts, you're being so strong! X


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